Dear Jayanti, as you leave us to usher in a new chapter in your life

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I cant help but look back on all the years that you have been with uncle & aunty…with us and wonder at the time flown by.

I have written to you before about how indebted I am to you for being there for us ( and I am hoping you would get your child[ren] read the letter one day and know how much you mean to me and my family), yet after all these years no amount of thank yous seem enough to truly express my heartfelt gratitude.

Although I knew this day was to come at some point in time, I never realized it would hit me so hard so soon…until you called me last night to say good-bye.  The minute you said, ‘ Didi mai jaa rahi hoon’ it dawned on me that the moment was here for real. I had so much to tell you but the sheer overwhelming nature of the situation made me struggle for words!

I wanted to tell you how much I was going to miss you. How much I would miss discussing the latest episodes of tele-soaps :D. How much I would miss calling out to you.

I wanted to tell you how bereft the house would seem without you around.

I wanted to tell you that when we come to Delhi, like always the first thing that Namnam’s eyes would look out for as soon as she enters the house would be you.

I wanted to tell you that she had drawn you in her family chart alongside her Ammachu, Ammamma and Thaatha. For her you are family. For us too, Jayanti :)

I wanted to tell you how much Namnam would miss running around you and cuddling up,

I wanted to tell you that she would terribly miss making your hair, undoing it and then combing it again and then undoing it and then clipping it again…and I would miss watching you sit through all of that patiently with your ever-effervescent smile :)

I wanted to tell you that I would miss watching you drum Achan-your uncle’s head playfully while waiting for him to finish his tea, hearing you recount a fun-ride you and Aunty had in a metro, watching the three of you laugh and crack jokes at each other. Even though watching you with uncle & aunty evoked a tinge of envy in me for the simple reason that the moments made me realize that you were getting to spend far more precious time with them than me. Yet those moments reassured how beautifully the three of you gelled with each other and how wonderfully you had accepted each other. For a daughter who lived so far away from her parents, believe me Jayanti, you were a great source of reassurance that my parents were in secure hands :).

I wanted to tell you to stay being the ever-smiling, loving and caring girl that you are :)

I wanted to tell you that if ever you felt challenged in any walk of life, you must be bold and strong to face it. Be known that Uncle Aunty, Raghubhaiyya and I will always be there for you.

I wanted to tell you to always stick to your grounds, to never compromise on your ideals, for I know how strong willed and principled you are.

I wanted to tell you, as you gear up to embark on a new journey, to be accepting towards your new family and command as much acceptance from them. Having said that I hope and pray that you are blessed with a wonderful husband and a wonderful family :)

I wanted to tell you to be happy. And I remember now that I did tell you that. I really want you to be. You deserve to be. In every bit of the way, my dear girl. May God bless you with all the happiness in the world.

Love always

Didi

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40 thoughts on “Dear Jayanti, as you leave us to usher in a new chapter in your life

    R's Mom said:
    May 14, 2012 at 12:39 pm

    Gosh! thats one of the sweetest letters I have read in a long time…God bless her!

      Deeps responded:
      May 15, 2012 at 8:10 am

      God bless her indeed!

    Soma Mukherjee said:
    May 14, 2012 at 12:45 pm

    Oh God even though i never met Jayanti i feel i have..Gawd my eyes welled up Deeps, i have never had such a hired help so i wont say i get you..but this letter was so heart warming and wrenching both….the pain of someone that close going away..if i feel so hurt and bad..
    Hugs :)

      Deeps responded:
      May 15, 2012 at 8:10 am

      Aww hugs Soma! :)

    Smita said:
    May 14, 2012 at 1:00 pm

    :) I wish I coud get somebody like this because if today I would be writing any such letter to “Swati” i.e. my Jayanti (only in name) I wud only be spitting venom!!!
    Wish her all the luck in this world from me :)

      Deeps responded:
      May 15, 2012 at 8:11 am

      Hahaha, Smita, you are a riot! I totally get what you mean though :D

      Swaram said:
      May 15, 2012 at 5:46 pm

      Ufff! I almost died of all the venom but thanks to the missing ‘h’ :P :P

    Smitha said:
    May 14, 2012 at 1:31 pm

    Hugs Deeps, I can imagine how sad you must be feeling that Jayanti is going, and how happy you must be for her to start her new life. Hugs!

    ‘For a daughter who lived so far away from her parents, believe me Jayanti, you were a great source of reassurance that my parents were in secure hands ‘ – You know, every time you spoke about Jayanti, I used to wish my parents had someone like her with them, someone who you know will care for them, something we would have wanted to do, but can’t.

    Here’s wishing Jayanti all the luck in the world. May she get all the happiness that she truly deserves. Hugs, Deeps!

      Deeps responded:
      May 15, 2012 at 8:15 am

      Hugs Smits! Amma and Achan are already missing her so much you know. Although they have someone coming home to help them with housework, the kind of attachment and belongingness that Jayanti had with them is irreplaceable :) .Shall pass on your wishes to her :)

    Smitha said:
    May 14, 2012 at 1:33 pm

    And that was a beautiful letter, Deeps!

    D:Thanks a ton Smits! :)

    Saritha said:
    May 14, 2012 at 6:55 pm

    Such a lovely and sweet letter,wish she gets to read this.

    All the best to Jayanti and may she have a wonderful life and spread her smiles in her new home as she did in your house….God bless her…

      Deeps responded:
      May 15, 2012 at 8:17 am

      “All the best to Jayanti and may she have a wonderful life and spread her smiles in her new home as she did in your house” Amen to that Sari :)

    Rekha Vikesh said:
    May 14, 2012 at 7:27 pm

    Wonderful post,Di! May she gets a wonderful life hereafter. Hope teacher has got some1 to b wid her n uncle.

      Deeps responded:
      May 15, 2012 at 8:31 am

      Amma & Achan have a someone coming home to help them with housework, he has been with them for quite sometime now, a trusted fellow :)

    Tanishka said:
    May 14, 2012 at 8:29 pm

    All the best to Jayanti for a new start… May she get all the happiness…. :)

      Deeps responded:
      May 15, 2012 at 8:32 am

      Thanks tan, shall pass on your wishes to Jayanti :)

    PNA said:
    May 14, 2012 at 9:00 pm

    Jayanti seems to be one darling of a girl :) We had Sheebachechi at our uncle’s house.. and we she left it was as if a part of childhood just went away… all the best Jayanti.. and hugs to you deeps :) very difficult to get such adorable people these days… lucky you, aunty, uncle…

      Deeps responded:
      May 15, 2012 at 8:35 am

      “she left it was as if a part of childhood just went away” Thats exactly how it feels with Jayanti too, Ash. People like her and your Sheebachechi bring such warmth in our lives, dont they! May God bless them! Hugs sweetie!

    Ashwathy said:
    May 14, 2012 at 9:29 pm

    Truly touching. You are lucky to have known her…and she, you. :)

      Deeps responded:
      May 15, 2012 at 8:35 am

      We truly are fortunate to have known her, Ash :)

    Indian Homemaker said:
    May 15, 2012 at 6:35 am

    My best wishes and blessings join yours for Jayanti’s wonderful future!! Hugs.

      Deeps responded:
      May 16, 2012 at 8:50 am

      Hugs IHM! Shall pass on your wishes and blessings to her :)

    Anonymously Disguised said:
    May 15, 2012 at 7:33 am

    This time I am sure it’s not the hormones that is making my eyes moist :cry: what a beautiful letter Deepsy. May god bless her with happiness and love from her new family…just the way you loved her so much :smile:

      Deeps responded:
      May 16, 2012 at 8:52 am

      Aww Saksh, hugs! Amen to your wish :)

    Bikramjit Singh Mann said:
    May 15, 2012 at 9:45 am

    Wow.. I hope she gets to know all this , ring her and tell her . She will surly be the happiest person …
    My regards to her tooo and god bless..

      Deeps responded:
      May 16, 2012 at 8:53 am

      Thanks so much Bik! Will convey your wishes to her :)

    scribblehappy said:
    May 15, 2012 at 10:54 am

    That was such a beautiful, heart-felt letter, Deeps. May God bless Jayanti with happiness always :-)

      Deeps responded:
      May 16, 2012 at 8:53 am

      Amen to that, Scribblehappy :)

    Swaram said:
    May 15, 2012 at 5:42 pm

    Have so many unread items on the reader Deeps, but came rushing by as soon as I saw the title :D Off to read now :)

      Deeps responded:
      May 16, 2012 at 9:02 am

      I know, Swar, I know how much Jayanti reminds you of Sundaramma! :) Hugs!

    Swaram said:
    May 15, 2012 at 5:49 pm

    Huge grin on me, esp. this one ‘I wanted to tell you that she had drawn you in her family chart alongside her Ammachu, Ammamma and Thaatha. For her you are family. For us too, Jayanti ‘
    So so sweet Deeps … I hd told u before too, we have a similar one Sundaramma – she was with my grandparents and then looked after all of my 8 cousins like their own family would :) And she now keeps asking me to have a kid soon so that she can look after before she ages more :)

    Best of wishes to Jayanti from my side too … she def. deserves the best in life. Hugs :)

      Deeps responded:
      May 16, 2012 at 9:04 am

      Aww thats so sweet of her! May God bless Sundaramma always! :)

    Amrita said:
    May 15, 2012 at 10:27 pm

    Good luck to Jayanti :) God bless her

      Deeps responded:
      May 16, 2012 at 9:04 am

      Thanks Amrita! And hows the li’l one doing? :)

    pixie said:
    May 16, 2012 at 6:37 am

    such a beautiful letter.. hugs Deeps.
    All the very best to Jayanti :)

      Deeps responded:
      May 16, 2012 at 9:05 am

      Hugs Pix!

    Shilpa Garg said:
    May 16, 2012 at 9:53 am

    It’s such a blessing to have some wonderful people like Jayanti in our lives!
    Wishing her the very best in her new endeavors!

    Deboshree said:
    June 1, 2012 at 10:09 am

    Wishing Jayanti all the very best for the times to come. Hugs, Deeps!

    Scribby said:
    June 6, 2012 at 9:15 pm

    senti kar ditta tussi !!!! sniff sniff

    lots of best wishes from me too to J :)

    Need Good Luck now said:
    September 15, 2012 at 11:44 am

    But when it comes to meant influencing of Fortune, its much powerless fixed in the heads of masses.

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