Dear Jayanti, as you leave us to usher in a new chapter in your life

I cant help but look back on all the years that you have been with uncle & aunty…with us and wonder at the time flown by.

I have written to you before about how indebted I am to you for being there for us ( and I am hoping you would get your child[ren] read the letter one day and know how much you mean to me and my family), yet after all these years no amount of thank yous seem enough to truly express my heartfelt gratitude.

Although I knew this day was to come at some point in time, I never realized it would hit me so hard so soon…until you called me last night to say good-bye.  The minute you said, ‘ Didi mai jaa rahi hoon’ it dawned on me that the moment was here for real. I had so much to tell you but the sheer overwhelming nature of the situation made me struggle for words!

I wanted to tell you how much I was going to miss you. How much I would miss discussing the latest episodes of tele-soaps :D. How much I would miss calling out to you.

I wanted to tell you how bereft the house would seem without you around.

I wanted to tell you that when we come to Delhi, like always the first thing that Namnam’s eyes would look out for as soon as she enters the house would be you.

I wanted to tell you that she had drawn you in her family chart alongside her Ammachu, Ammamma and Thaatha. For her you are family. For us too, Jayanti :)

I wanted to tell you how much Namnam would miss running around you and cuddling up,

I wanted to tell you that she would terribly miss making your hair, undoing it and then combing it again and then undoing it and then clipping it again…and I would miss watching you sit through all of that patiently with your ever-effervescent smile :)

I wanted to tell you that I would miss watching you drum Achan-your uncle’s head playfully while waiting for him to finish his tea, hearing you recount a fun-ride you and Aunty had in a metro, watching the three of you laugh and crack jokes at each other. Even though watching you with uncle & aunty evoked a tinge of envy in me for the simple reason that the moments made me realize that you were getting to spend far more precious time with them than me. Yet those moments reassured how beautifully the three of you gelled with each other and how wonderfully you had accepted each other. For a daughter who lived so far away from her parents, believe me Jayanti, you were a great source of reassurance that my parents were in secure hands :).

I wanted to tell you to stay being the ever-smiling, loving and caring girl that you are :)

I wanted to tell you that if ever you felt challenged in any walk of life, you must be bold and strong to face it. Be known that Uncle Aunty, Raghubhaiyya and I will always be there for you.

I wanted to tell you to always stick to your grounds, to never compromise on your ideals, for I know how strong willed and principled you are.

I wanted to tell you, as you gear up to embark on a new journey, to be accepting towards your new family and command as much acceptance from them. Having said that I hope and pray that you are blessed with a wonderful husband and a wonderful family :)

I wanted to tell you to be happy. And I remember now that I did tell you that. I really want you to be. You deserve to be. In every bit of the way, my dear girl. May God bless you with all the happiness in the world.

Love always

Didi

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40 thoughts on “Dear Jayanti, as you leave us to usher in a new chapter in your life

  1. Oh God even though i never met Jayanti i feel i have..Gawd my eyes welled up Deeps, i have never had such a hired help so i wont say i get you..but this letter was so heart warming and wrenching both….the pain of someone that close going away..if i feel so hurt and bad..
    Hugs :)

  2. :) I wish I coud get somebody like this because if today I would be writing any such letter to “Swati” i.e. my Jayanti (only in name) I wud only be spitting venom!!!
    Wish her all the luck in this world from me :)

  3. Hugs Deeps, I can imagine how sad you must be feeling that Jayanti is going, and how happy you must be for her to start her new life. Hugs!

    ‘For a daughter who lived so far away from her parents, believe me Jayanti, you were a great source of reassurance that my parents were in secure hands ‘ – You know, every time you spoke about Jayanti, I used to wish my parents had someone like her with them, someone who you know will care for them, something we would have wanted to do, but can’t.

    Here’s wishing Jayanti all the luck in the world. May she get all the happiness that she truly deserves. Hugs, Deeps!

    • Hugs Smits! Amma and Achan are already missing her so much you know. Although they have someone coming home to help them with housework, the kind of attachment and belongingness that Jayanti had with them is irreplaceable :) .Shall pass on your wishes to her :)

  4. Such a lovely and sweet letter,wish she gets to read this.

    All the best to Jayanti and may she have a wonderful life and spread her smiles in her new home as she did in your house….God bless her…

    • “All the best to Jayanti and may she have a wonderful life and spread her smiles in her new home as she did in your house” Amen to that Sari :)

  5. Jayanti seems to be one darling of a girl :) We had Sheebachechi at our uncle’s house.. and we she left it was as if a part of childhood just went away… all the best Jayanti.. and hugs to you deeps :) very difficult to get such adorable people these days… lucky you, aunty, uncle…

    • “she left it was as if a part of childhood just went away” Thats exactly how it feels with Jayanti too, Ash. People like her and your Sheebachechi bring such warmth in our lives, dont they! May God bless them! Hugs sweetie!

  6. This time I am sure it’s not the hormones that is making my eyes moist :cry: what a beautiful letter Deepsy. May god bless her with happiness and love from her new family…just the way you loved her so much :smile:

  7. Huge grin on me, esp. this one ‘I wanted to tell you that she had drawn you in her family chart alongside her Ammachu, Ammamma and Thaatha. For her you are family. For us too, Jayanti ‘
    So so sweet Deeps … I hd told u before too, we have a similar one Sundaramma – she was with my grandparents and then looked after all of my 8 cousins like their own family would :) And she now keeps asking me to have a kid soon so that she can look after before she ages more :)

    Best of wishes to Jayanti from my side too … she def. deserves the best in life. Hugs :)

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