I read this post on Madmomma’s blog and I couldnt help myself from posting one of my own on the subject.
When I come across people who claim to be more concerned about my daughter than me(mind you some of them are total strangers),it irks me no end.I wonder how is it anybody’s business that my daughter is skinny or plump,tall or short,talkative or quiet?Till this day I keep getting these I-so-feel-like-slapping-them kind of comments like ‘Oh!your baby is so small!’,’why is her weight so less?’,’Oh she is light like a feather!’or the typical ‘आपकी बच्ची तो बड़ी कमज़ोर है,कुछ खिलाते पिलाते नही हो क्या?’
The very day she was born,I got a call from one of my aunts (who till then I virtually idolized) to congratulate me on my little feat! Before even she wished me,her first question was ‘what’s her weight?’ And as I mentioned the figure,immediately without even thinking she went ‘Oh thats too low!’Here I was expecting her to be happy about my achievement and she had started off her conversation with a discouraging note.I was so furious at that remark of hers that I bluntly told her that was not the case and that the doctors had said she was normal and her APGAR score was 8 which was very good.
From then on R and I have faced a barrage of comments like this.Earlier I used to get affected by this hugely.Whenever someone told me my child was skinny,I used to get into a defensinve mode and give them a plain-right’NO,SHE’S NOT’.Just to prove them wrong and tell them ‘YOU DO NOT DECIDE FOR MY CHILD,I DO’.
Then it reached a stage where I got so tired of defying people that I started justifying to them that my child was not fat because R and I were not when we were small.And that children,more often than not go after their parents!
What is it about fat kids?Why do we fancy them so much?Madmomma says’fat kids look cute until they’re one and then they’re just unhealthy’.I absolutely second her on that.I have seen parents take great pride in their babies being plump and waste all their time and energy criticizing others’ less plump babies and advising them how they should let the kids gobble all and sundry just so they can be fat.They dont realize that their kids may be plump but they may also turn out bow-legged or obese.How can the parents expect their babies will walk properly with so much of body-weight?
For me,every kid is cute.Bonny,skinny,fat,tall,short.In any whichway,babies are cute and adorable.Every child is different in his/her own way.Kids develop in their own pace.It is not at all important that your child is fat or skinny.What is important is that that he/she is healthy.
Now when R and I are confronted with such baseless remarks,we say,’our child is healthy.So long as she doesnt fall sick often and so long as she is active and growing up well,it is fine.Her Ped is happy with her progress.And that makes us happier.Nothing else matters.’Period.