When I met him first….

I was all of 22 and still undecided whether to get married or no.Oh no,I did want to get married,but didn’t know if I was ready to be married so soon.I was so not ready to look my best and offer tea to the prospective candidates and then wait with shutterbugs in my stomach for their approval.I agreed to meet him purely at the insistence of my parents who had already met him and liked him.Yes,in this case it was the other way round.The girl’s family had okayed the boy and his family first!To top it up,he had to be at his behavioral best not only with my parents but my Achachan,Ammamma,Maama(my mom’s brother)& Ammayi also!

When my parents met him after the usual horoscope matching,family background checking,et cetera,et cetera they told me they had liked him very much but the decision entirely rested on me.They showed me a not-very-clear-snap of his(he looked as if he had gulped about 5pegs of Vodka) and asked me to meet him once before I took my decision.He called the very same day to fix up the time and place to meet.Since our offices were a few blocks apart from each other in Connaught Place,we arranged to have lunch in one of the restaurants there.It was decided that he would meet me outside my office.’Ok’,said I.
As I stood outside my office feeling nervous and unsure about my future and what it held for me,I failed to realise that I was actually waiting for him and not the other way round as I had heard.And then I saw him walking towards with the most captivating smile I’d ever seen in my life.He had had me in that one smile!
We,then,headed to the restaurant to have lunch.That’s when he asked what I was looking for in my life-partner.I told him my life partner had to be tall,handsome,loving,and caring.Someone who accepted my family the way I would his..The cliche’d answers,I know.And then he asked me this very pertinent question,’Is it not important that your life partner has a good sense of humour?’I had never thought about it then.

Now I realise how right he was.It is as important in a marriage to make each other laugh as it is to love,care,fight,criticise,appreciate,accept each other’s families,give each other space,accept each other’s drawbacks,support each other’s endeavours and so on.He never lets go of an opportunity to make me laugh.

Anyhow,getting back to our story,we were hardly sure in that half hour rendezvous that we wanted to spend the rest of our life together.But we were sure of one thing-that we certainly wanted to continue seeing each other more often.And thus started our journey towards a life of togetherness.

We were engaged exactly one month later.In the ensuing five months,we got ample time to know each other well,to talk our heart out,to realise that we indeed were ready to spend our lives together.I still remember the day he proposed to me.He said,’Our families seem to have decided on bringing us together.But I,myself have never asked you this.’And out popped the eternal question.’Will you marry me?’For a fraction of a second I was dumbstruck and thankfully he couldn’t see my jaw-drop expression as the whole proposal was being putforth over the phone.He had taken me completely off-guard!I was suddenly aware I WAS ready to be married.Here was a man who wanted to be as much with me for the rest of his life as I did with him.I was on top of the world.And I said ‘YES!I will’.In a few months we were married.

In the 9years that we have been together,we grew to love each other immensely.We learnt to accept and respect each other despite our differences and drawbacks.He became my best friend.Someone with whom I could share my innermost feelings with no inhibitions whatsoever.
I discovered,over the years,that,although he would never be explicit in his feelings for me like I am,he had the most inane quality of making me feel special at times when I’d be least expecting it.He never forced his beliefs and opinions on me.In fact he would always encourage me to stick to my own.When we fought,it would always be him who makes the first move towards a truce!And I have to admit here,that more often than not,I would be the one at fault.All he had to do was,activate his funnier persona,say something utterly laughable and BAM!The ice would be broken** and I’d be giggling through my tears!

When I was desperate to become a mother and I was on the verge of losing all my hopes of becoming one,he re-instilled the faith in me,assured me that all was not lost.In the midst of my torrential outbursts on him at not being able to conceive,he kept his cool and gave me the much needed strength and support.Eventually we were blessed with a beautiful daughter and I discovered yet another side of his-of a doting father.

TODAY,as R and I step into our tenth year together,I realise what a fulfilling and treasurable ride it has been.And yet there is so much more love in us to give each other.We have so much more to learn and discover about each other.There is still so much more to talk about,fight about and eventually laugh about.

On that note I sign off with a quote by Mark Twain “Love seems the swiftest, but it is the slowest of all growths. No man or woman really knows what perfect love is until they have been married a quarter of a century.”

There is still so much more to look forward to….

**(source of the statement-Shail)

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39 thoughts on “When I met him first….

  1. Beautiful!!!

    Deeps, this is such a lovely li’ll era u hv shared! God bless you and yours!! Keep the flame burning, and let the Love live, on n on πŸ™‚

    God bless!!

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  2. Thanks so much,sashu.Yours has been the first wish from the blogosphere,hence very very special to me.It means a lot!
    Thanks again for your wishes:)

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  3. a beautifully written post, which i read misty eyed, u know ur amma gets misty eyed when she is emotional, no? and ur post made me that deeps. my love and appreciation for both of u has only increased .may both of u be blessed with many more years of togetherness. God bless u to turn “ten” to “hundred”.Oru nooru muthamen muthininn..ee dinaminiyuminiyum varattanakam…ningal swasikyum vayu onnayi…ningal ramikyumm lokamonnayi…….

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  4. πŸ™‚ And Congratulations on having found each other.. πŸ™‚
    Happy Anniversary of it too πŸ™‚

    God bless, always, you and yours πŸ™‚

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  5. beautiful post !!!.. so true that humor is a very important thing in a relationship ..congrats on the 10th year and heres wishing many many more …

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  6. @Wordjunkie:Thanks so much:)

    @Ma:Ariyaam,how emotional you are.And now guess what,those lines have got me misty eyed!Lots of Hugs,Ma:)

    @Usha Pisharody:Thanks a ton for your wishes:)

    @Bhargavi:Thank you so much:)

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  7. Happy anniversary Deeps and God Bless your family with heaps more of happiness for many many more years to come !
    Nice to read about this side of you.
    Yup..so true.. I think ..sense of humour is one thing that makes relationships work…

    So what was special for the anniversary?

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  8. Happy anniversary Deeps and God Bless your family with heaps more of happiness for many many more years to come !
    Nice to read about this side of you.
    Yup..so true.. I think ..sense of humour is one thing that makes relationships work…

    So what was special for the anniversary?

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  9. Deeps, Loved your post. I just connect to your writing in some way… first it was about your daughter and now this. It’s beautiful and real and then I read your mom’s comment (Chandrika) and that made me misty eyed too because my mom would do the same.

    I am an emotional person too and even a ‘Ma’ scene in KKHH makes me cry. This motherhood as a whole is a crying business I tell you :)):))

    Here’s wishing you many more beautiful and wonderful years together. Aashamsakal!

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  10. Happy Anniversary Deeps. ‘Twas a wonderful read, emotions ans sentiments woven together. Arre yaar, you just used ‘ice was broken’ a common usage. Why did you have to credit it to me??!! πŸ˜€
    Wishing you many more years of togetherness and joy!

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  11. Wow!Its so heartening to see so many wishes!
    @A:Thanks a ton:)

    @VJ:Thank you so much:)Know what,my husband said we shouldnt be going out on our 'condolence day'.Instead I should be consoling him for his misery over the last 9years!!So much for empathy!!
    Jokes apart,we celeberated our day at home since the climate here is very bad and there is flu and other illnesses in the air.We didnt want to expose Namnam to that.So we had a good dinner at home and watched the T20 match between India&Srilanka!

    @Solilo:Kodi Nandi:)*smiling full on with my 32teeth..er..or is it 30* reading your comments.Coming from someone like you who has always made me smile and relate with your amazing posts its a huge honour.Trust me the feelings are absolutely mutual:)
    You're right.Motherhood does bring out your emotional side to the fore.Its only when you're a mother,do you realise how anything and everything can move you.

    @Renu:Thank you so very much:)

    &Shail:Thanks a ton:)You're back from Kollam so soon??
    I agree the usage is common but it was only after reading your post that it struck me to apply the same here.So I have to give you that due credit,nahi???

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  12. Hey where is my comment…didn’t it come? I had wished u too, was the first infact…the connectionsa are bad here, right…anyway a sweet post..

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  13. No,yar..didnt get any comment.this is the first from u on the post.
    See,this is what happened with me too.I commented on your holding hands post and it didnt get delivered.Qtel needs some shaking up:)

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  14. Im 25 and my family is after my life to get married…and im also wondering if im ready for it..and esp how am i gonna know in 1 meeting if he is gonna be the guy for me!
    Your post gave me a different perspective and it was a lovely read πŸ™‚

    Congrats on your wedding anniversary.

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  15. @Datsme:Thank you:).Glad you liked the post.All the very best for your future.I’m sure you will meet the right person at the right time:)

    @Reflections:yep,yep,yep,Nancy…total arranged cum love marriage!
    Thanks a ton for your wishes:)

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  16. Hahaha.. so he did proved his sense of humourstill exists after 9 years of mariage and you proved that you have it too by taking it in the right spirit.
    Great to hear you had a peaceful anniversary.

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  17. @NM:Thank you very much,NM

    @Piper:Thanks a ton,Hugs to you too:)

    @VJ:I keep getting these ridiculous alerts from various sites who is your favourite Indian Idol?’or ‘Do you want to be a scriptwriter?If so click on the link’ and so on.To avoid those alerts from being jammed in my posts I’ve activated the comments moderation.Else do you really think I’ll moderate your comments?You’re such a sweetheart:)

    @Sunder:Didnt get any comment from you.This is the first one.Thank you for your wishes:)

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  18. Hey,thanx,Nitya!Had been away,so couldnt acknowledge your wishes earlier.Will give your love to Namnam too:)

    And Iya,thank you so very much for you wishes:)

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  19. Such a loveeely post Deeps .. God bless u both πŸ™‚
    Psst psst, u make me wanna go home nw and ask Su to do the same too πŸ˜› πŸ˜›

    D: he he,go ask him and bring out a post on that πŸ˜›

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  20. Aww! Am short words fo posts like these!!! You have said so much that all I can say is you guys are blessed and I hope u remain the way you are πŸ™‚

    D: Awww..thank you so much,Smita πŸ™‚

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  21. Love at first sight !!!! Lattoooooooo at the first gooooo… !!!!!!!!! he he he… πŸ˜€ πŸ˜€ πŸ˜€ πŸ˜€

    D: Total! Bas dhadaam karke giri nahi,ganeemat πŸ˜€ πŸ˜€

    I never read this before and loved reading this… πŸ˜€ πŸ˜€ πŸ˜€

    Beautiful and your love shines through… God blesss !!!!

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  22. very very beautiful Deeps…. its like happening before my eyes right now…

    thanks for linking this post.. truly you both were blessed.. πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

    D: How sweet of you to say that,Kanagu! Thank you πŸ™‚

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  24. ((((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))are all I have to give after that beautiful from the heart emotional post that made me all senti too…
    May your love fro each other grow with each passing day…god bless you and your loved ones:)

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  25. sobs…sobs…ur love ishtory is so like all the romantic SRK ones πŸ˜› Mine would be more like a violent terrorist movie starring Helen in the lead role πŸ˜₯

    You write so beautifully when it comes to describing your relationship with R πŸ™‚

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