Clueless about the title?? My Malayali readers would have understood what I’m asking though.
Lately the blogosphere has been abuzz with posts on real names and pseudo-names, which made me think about another type that contributed a great deal in identifying us. Its the pet-names or nicknames that our family and friends give us or know us by.
I want to particularly touch upon the pet-names that our parents address us by. Hence the word ‘Omanaperu’ in the title which means pet-name in Malayalam.
Not that nicknames are not special. They are, indeed. They are what you are known by in your circle of family & friends. They are what your friends christen you with mainly to pull your leg. Like I was given by my childhood friends.
I was often called ‘Teepatti'(match-box) as it sounded a lot like my real name :D.
Some have really cute nicknames. One of my oldest childhood friends’ nickname is Rinki. I know another girl who’s called Pankhudi, the sound of which I absolutely love. I also like Saritha’s daughter’s name, Pinkuda :).
Having said that, pet-names have always held an extra special place in my heart. I always felt doubly cuddled and pampered when my parents addressed me as Molu, Malu, Muthey(Pearl), and so on. Or when my maternal grandmother called me Molunni. They effused so much of warmth, affection and love that many a times a mere Deepu, my other nickname, missed to convey.
I remember how I used to gauge my mother’s temperament by the sheer way she used to address me. If she called out with a stern ‘Deepu’ I knew I was being summoned for some serious talk. And a signal to a massive blast was when she would call me out by my real name(I still dread this signal!! ). But a soft ‘Muthey’ was all it took to soften the mood and make me run to her for a tight hug.
I strongly believe cuddling & pampering should be a vital part of your growing up. If a parent can reprimand his/her child for any misbehavior, then he/she should also cuddle the child and make him/her feel loved and cared for. That I feel, will go a long way in making the child emotionally secure and stable.
R & I are doing whatever possible to make sure Namnam too grows up in a cuddle-filled environment just like we did. Hence we have all sorts of pet-names for her from Ponnu to Cheeku to Shonu to Jaanu to Chakkara apart from her regular nicknames Namnam and Namnu :).
So tell me,whats your pet-name?
My nick name is Neti. my real name is way too common. shout neha on the street and 7 out of 10 will turn around. Rest three will be Pooja! but I got this name from my neighbours and simply adore it. Nobody calls me by this name anymore, but as you said, nick names bring a lot of warmth..nice to know you are continuing the same thing with your child too π very nice post π
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Neti is a very cute name, Neha. Unique! I love this nickname π
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thank you π
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ah, some blogger problem..check WW now if you can π
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Neti is a wonderfull name
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That was the sweetest post, Deeps π I can totally identify with the omanaperu bit π I am called Chinnu by my parents and all my relatives. I remember we had a family friend who use do to call me ‘poochakutti’. Now, I can see why, when I see Kunju – she looks like a poohakutti too, at times. Kunju on the other hand, I end up calling everything on earth π I can’t help but call her pet names π And when she was really little, she used to burst into tears when I called her by her real name – as that is used ONLY when I was really cross π
D: Oh I use my Amma’s strategy too and call out Namnam by her real name whenever I’m cross with her. That works more often than not π
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You’ll laugh, Smits, when I tell you what my uncle( my dad’s brother) used to call me- Paarukutty π
He still calls me that just to irritate me π
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LOL! All these petnames are so cute – not when we get called though π I had a phase where I wanted everybody to call me by my real name π
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Poochakutti sounds full of warmth π π
I luv Molunni too Deeps .. sooo sweet π π
D: Molunni is a name very close to my heart, Swaram..whenever I think of that name I can feel my grandmother’s presence…I was very close to her π
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Ya, even I like calling names; if you know what I mean!!! π π π π
I have had a few nicknames. Infact, the second post in my blog was about my nicknames. check it out here :
http://vlokam.wordpress.com/2007/07/15/the-names-howwhenwhat-and-why/
D: I read it, gundumani π π
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Hahahaha!! gundumani!
Hmmm….I never had a nickname, i mean my parents would either call me as rakesh or EDAAAA!!!
But i did get many names thnx to vimmuuu & his big b..i will reveal somee of those infamous names here
1)Meeshilla Vaasu
2)Pachakulam Vasu
3)Skeleton rock
Then whn i got back to india my granma started calling me Raghu n friends either as Raku or Ragu/raghavo !
And now im the notorious Karate brat! π
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Hi Deeps-coming back to bloglok after a long time-and such a sweet post to mark it π
D: Welcome back, HM..so good to see you here π
My daughters too mark my mood by the names I use to call them-starting from Laddu-guddu, sona-mona, niki-joyee, to the real names (and then they run for cover.
And I really miss the people who used to call me by my nickname.
D: You know HM, there was this very special nickname that I was known by in family circle- cuckoo! I used to love that name. But as I grew up my family and close relatives stopped calling me by that name thinking I would be embarrassed. How I wish they had continued calling me that!
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Pet names… sometimes its nice but at times I don’t like them.. at times it irritates me…
My name is quite a long one and my parents borke it down to Kanagu(It’s almost my real name now π I won’t turn that easily when someone calls me ‘Kanagaraj’ :lol:)… but I don’t know how till my training my friends too called me by that name.. it should have stopped at ‘Kanag’.. interesting π π
D: ‘Kanag’ does sound interesting π
Me too had the name Kanakku(comes to Maths)called by my firends.. something derived from my name.. and I hated that π
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Awww… cho chweet da Deeps π Lovely post. Reminded me of my pet names too.. though I don’t want to write about them in the blog, as it holds warm memories π
D: I perfectly understand, Pals..I’m glad you liked my post :).
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I have not really had a nick name… !!! but as a kid i would be called dhir dhir gatta… (gatta subzi you know) thanks to my chubby cheeks.. ! I didnt mind that at all though.. !
D: Dhir dhir gatta…LOL, Hitchy π
as an adult mostly they call me dhirubhai behind the more famous ambani… and I dont mind it either… as long its a guy who is calling me it.. ! π
bout you gauging your mom’s temper by what she called you… absolutely… when it was beta… its good mood… but when its Dhiren… !!! yes… she just found your books are incomplete !!!!
D: This is one tried and tested formula to tame your child I guess π
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Hi Deeps, That’s a real sweet post. Sadly I do not have a pet name as my name is already way too short. But I had always missed out on being called by pet name so I gave pet names to both my daughters π
D: I know..pet names really ooze out so much of warmth, don’t they??
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Such a cute post…loved it….
Mine being such a short name, ppl couldnt shorten it anymore to make a pet name, I guess…so, I remained Uma for everyone at home. It was school, that my frnds twisted and twirled my name to give it sounds like Umi, Umiya, Upma…God knows what…. π
I love calling my daughters by all names except thiers, I guess…If the proper name is called then I am annoyed at something they did….
D: Like I told Hitchy..a tried and tested formula which works well in my household too π
Kannamma, Chella, Pattu, Kutti…there are many more…so childish than others too…. π
D: How sweet π
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My name is too short for a pet name, but Pixie has been shortened to Pix, Pixu and Pixer as well!!
But, friends have called me – “Putta” (meaning little on in Kannada),
Chinnu and Dumz!
Sweet sweet post! My parents were never the cuddle-types, but I am and my sister isn’t (i think!)…
They made sure the love and the reprimand was felt by their tones and actions! π
D: You too, Pix..goodness its the story of every household..LOL
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U know my aunt calls me kothi [monkey] when she is very happy with me π oooo kotttthiii she goes in a lovely way .. it sounds so funny to ppl actually lol π
D: Kothi sounds so cute π
My Nana used to call me Puttu and it stayed that way. As Smithu said abt Poohi, if Dad/Mom or Su call me by my real name, I keep wondering if they r angry/bored/not-in-a-good mood etc.. lol π
D: ha ha ha
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Kothi is apt for you Swaram! 110%!! π
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I also believe in a lot of PDA with kids… even adults. Remember Crafty’s post about hugs? Like you, I feel where hugs are most needed is at home and with small kids.
Loved how you described your mom’s mood could be gauged by the name she used to call you… I do it with my kids too and my parents- specially my dad hardly ever used my real name π
Another thing I have seen is specially when they are very young, we change the gender while showing affection π So all little girls are devils and all little boys are sweetie pies π Of course this has to stops when they are a little older, they don’t like being what they are π So now it has switched to our pets – and they have no objections π
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awww this is such a weet post… i always had nick names lots and lots of them π
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my mother calls me and my sister whatever she feels like .. sometimes, it is my mother tongue for gold .. sometimes, its something she invents π
my father always calls me by my name itself … no change .. π
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Sadly I had no nick names…but my granny used to call me mole, the tone was enough to understand the love..so it was enough. In school I was poocha, for reasons obvious! But I do call my kids a lot of names..depending on the mood, sometimes it is as silly as dindaldumanni’s…and I can see the elder wince in horror and the younger’s chest heave with pride!
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Awww…such a sweet post! I absolutely love petnames!! Infact,I am almost always known by that! Even my Professors at Medical College ended up calling me Sash by end of first year!! Hehe π
My family, Mr.Pea and close friends most often call me Sashooty π Another nickname I sported during early graduation days was CK aka Chattambi Kalyani; courtesy my prankster bratty self π N during my childhood my maternal uncle would call me Gundumulaku..Hehe!! π
D: he he he…I loved the name chattambi kalyani π
N must say Deeps, Molunni is darn cuteee!! π N Namnam is uniquely special too!!
D: Awww…hugs to you Sash π
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No no, I’m not revealing my nicknames here π
D: Let me guess..was it Daaku Raka?? waise the name suits you.. bhagooooo π
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am called D by a few of my colleagues else no other!
D: π
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This is an interesting post, Deepu! My father called me ‘baale’ until he died…I was a mother of two sons and was 42 years old! Baale means baby, in Tulu!
When my sons were too small, I used to call them paappaa, pattu etc. My younger son was too chubby..busk buskunnu iruppaan … so he was called by us and every one as Busky! After he came back home from abroad, he suddenly thought the name was not good! He insisted on us to call him by his real name. It took some months for me to change, though! Some of my relatives still call him Busky and say that they would continue to do so, to his BIG angry face!
D: “busk buskunnu iruppaan” LOL, Sandhya..you’re s cute, you know that??
Molunni is a nice one…sounds cuddly!
D: Its a name very close to my heart π
Your mother’s method of calling by full name when angry, is a good idea!
I am Sandy to some of my cousins, otherwise, except my father (I don’t remember him calling me by my name!) everyone called me Sandhya!
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I have always believed that cushioning our little kids prepares them for future hardships.
and pet names are always sweet.
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I never had any nicknames but some friends called me nanny & I absolutely hated it
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I forgot, they also called me Nancy Drew tho ofcourse it cant be termed as omanaperu π
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In tamil we have a word that is equivalent to malayalam Kunje”, that is what I remember the most. My daughter S has a pet name, but my younger one A’s name itself is too short to have another pet name.
You are right on, about hugs. I remember the warmth of hugs from not just parents but all uncles, aunts, grandmas etc.
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My Name is Gundumulaku!!
lol!!
and Baby!! and Water Bear!!
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Cute post, Omanaperu – nice word! When I was growing up, had a lot of Bong friends, and each of them would have v. unique nick names or dak-naams as they called them. I have many for my daughters, and yes, proper names used only to call them out for something:)
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Can u suggest a sweet pet name for my baby boy Naithan
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ithil 99% aalukalum paranjirikkunnathu avarude ishttangal aanu.. allaathe avare vilikkunna omanapperukal alla… u can argue.. but athalle sathyam.. think twice guys… anyway, my omanaperu was paappakuttan.. njaan valuthaayappo aa peru vilikkaan mattullavarkku naanam aayi π
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can you suggest a sweet pet name for my baby Shriyansh
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