(Not so)Dear Fraaandship seeking Guy or Gal or whoever you are,

Just because you have a ‘Dr’ or a ‘Prof’ prefixed to your name- a name that I can hardly decipher with all those symbols like &$#@*% thrown in BTW – or because you are a Malayali, or are from Delhi, or live in Doha DOES NOT qualify you to be my friend. Nope. Even if you have a profile pic of George Clooney or Roger Federer or Hrithik Roshan up on display…NOT EVEN THEN.

And if the smiling DP in my profile is what makes you assume that I will accept fraaandhip requests from strangers, then you’re highly mistaken. That smile is meant for my family & friends, strictly. For people like you who never cease to irritate me with your constant pokes I have a not-so-sweet and heavily repulsive smile up my chin to scare you away. Something along the lines of this…

Scary witch!

Also if you think that, by writing things like, ‘You have a sweet smile’ or ‘Oh! so you’re from Delhi? So am I. What a coincidence? Can we be fraaands then?’, you’ll get me all jumping with joy and moving my cursor to ‘accept the friendship’, you’ve got me wrong there as well. I’m well past the phase and age of getting floored by such cheeky pick-up lines.

Ok, I give you the benefit of doubt and agree that you may think I resemble someone you know. If that’s the case, then I urge you to notice the option ‘add a personal message’ and ask me. I’ll be glad to reply, ‘NO I’m NOT the one you’re looking for’.

Let me make it clear once and for all that I’ve listed myself on the social networking sites mainly to connect with my family and close friends and NOT to make random friendships with total strangers.

So refrain yourself from sending these friendship requests and save your time and energy for something more worthwhile.

With (dis)regards

79 thoughts on “(Not so)Dear Fraaandship seeking Guy or Gal or whoever you are,

        1. Gud one Deeps. I dnt even understand y anybody and everybody sends a friendship err fraaandship request πŸ˜› πŸ˜›

          So refrain yourself from sending these friendship requests and save your time and energy for something more worthwhile. – He he! I wish they realize too πŸ˜‰

          Err btw, cn we hv that other avatar of u as the profile pic πŸ˜› πŸ˜›

          D: You send me a ‘fraandship request and I’ll show you the pic of my other avatar 😈


  1. I know its irritating when some unknown ppl send us requests like this…I too have refused a many. And I’ve taught my girls to stay on their guard. With the whole class as frnds on FB, when someone uses a bad lang slang or something, it becomes a way for others…I’ve even instructed her to remove them from the frnds list, if they use bad lang…it always helps to be on guard.

    One of the minus points of social networking sites….


  2. I agree with you completely on the “I am networking to remain connected with the people I want to” bit. And what do you say to those creeps in college who find u on FB decades later and send a “remember me” message.There should be an option to tag people with “Oh please I DO NOT want to remember u”.

    D: Ha ha ha..now thats an attractive option πŸ˜€


  3. I agree. Initially I used to connect to people who used to claim that they worked in same previous company as mine, studied in same college as mine etc. Soon I started ignoring those random requests. There seems to be so many jobless people around looking to send such random friendship requests.

    D: I know, Lakshmi! They seem to be having a lot of time in hand to indulge themselves in such annoying activities πŸ˜€


  4. Oh god Deeps, that was so apt and hilarious and real and everything I wanted to say !! how I wish the whole post can be picked up and put as the status on FB. Seriously you have hit the nail right on the head (as usual), by the way I like this face of yours for the ‘Fraandship’ seeking population !! ha..ha..ha πŸ™‚

    D: Eeks..you like the image above? So that means those fraandship seeking guys & gals will not be scared away?? Chey, all my mehnat gone to waste!


  5. LOL! Deeps, this message should be posted in the ‘about me’ section in all the social networking sites πŸ™‚ It is so annoying na? Although, I used to get very few of these – guess my DP scares people away πŸ˜‰ Not that I am complaining πŸ™‚ But seriously! My friend used to read to me all the friendship reqs she used to get, and we used to have a ball – esp in Orkut πŸ™‚


    1. Know what, Smits, you’re right! I should mention this message on the ‘about me’ section. And if I’m successful in warding off those annoying creeps then I’ll give you due credit, pakka πŸ˜€


  6. You should post this as a note in FB so we all can share it πŸ™‚
    Seriously these people think ‘you have a sweet smile’ will get them an instant passport to the friends list of the one they are messaging. Give me a break.

    D: I know!! Aaaarrrgh!! Irritating to the core they are!


  7. OH teri… Aaap ab bata hi den where do i stand Now that i have you put in a situation he hehehe πŸ™‚

    D: Oye, you are already there in my network,then why kheenching meri taang?? πŸ˜€

    why do guys send requests to girls , Why are the girls not sending requests to me … I promise i will accept all the requests … so all ready jaldi jaldi πŸ™‚

    Ok now calm down and ignore i would say … Wait till you start getting emails to vote for posts πŸ™‚
    he hehe

    Bikram’s blog


  8. ROFL!!! Kya Deeps, how can you turn down fraandship proposals in such a cold-hearted manner? Esp. when they look ejjaktaly like Hritik Roshan or Aamir Kaan?!!!! Lovely post. Just ignore such characters.

    D: Till date I haven’t understood the logic behind putting up snaps of celebrities as DPs, Pals. Wonder if they want us all to believe they are some alter egos of these celebrities!


  9. Just give a boost to your ego that your profile pic still looks interesting and click on the Ignore button! Those who are really worth your time will do smarter stuff… Like writing a blog πŸ˜‰

    D: Bilkul! Guess why there’s such dearth of smart people in this world! Wish everyone were like you, nahi?? 😈


  10. Agree! For some guys even a profile pic is not needed, they just see that the profile is that of a female and rush over with requests of fraanship! How desperate are these people and how desperate do they think women are? What reply do they expect when they say “want to be frenship?” Really!!!!

    D: Ayyo..the less said about their way with words, the better, Dreamer :). They will give the Queen’s English a whole new definition πŸ˜€


  11. I wonder why people want to make new friends on the Face book… which is a strange world by itself to start with! A strange place where old buddies do not even communicate once you confirm them as friends…. is it just a statistics that reflect in the total number of friends!
    This is even more disturbing when it comes to linked in

    D: Your views are very much similar to my husband’s. He feels the same way about the networking sites as you.


  12. I am already ‘fraands’ with u so I dont need to worry right? πŸ˜€ πŸ˜€

    BTW the best way to discourage these idiots is to put up the worst photo possible (along the lines of the pic in this post)… :mrgreen:

    But yea, true, why scare family and friends along with it? πŸ™„ So never mind! πŸ˜›

    D: Guess I’ll have to go by what Smitha has advised- put this message up on my ‘about me’ section on all the networking sites πŸ˜€


  13. LMAO..too good..have u ever got a message – please be frandship with me!

    yes, it is irritating to receive those requests each day from the brad pitts and leonardos..i cannot put up my ugliest pic (like i have any πŸ˜› :P) so that i dont receive those requests..ignore n block options rock πŸ˜€

    D: ha ha..they sure do rock πŸ˜€


  14. I used to get so irritated I would get my friends to report these unwanted frandship seekers as spam. But there are too many of them 😦

    D: 😦 😦 Sigh!


  15. Why dont I get such FRAANDSHIP requests from any girls huh ??? I’ll love to promptly accept them !!!!!!! :mrgreen: 😈

    D: I hope all those despo girls are listening or rather reading this comment of yours 😈


  16. Gosh! I totally agree Deeps!
    Those request are quite irritating!!!

    the pic is totaly accurate and kind of adorable as well!! πŸ˜€ πŸ˜€

    D: You like this pic, Pix??? EEEEEWWWWWWW!


  17. This is funny! If somebody says that your smile is lovely, say ‘thank you’ and ignore! It is a nice feeling if somebody says your smile is lovely, isn’t it…once in a while!


  18. Namnam’s jutti is beautiful…she has got beautiful hair!

    D: Awww, tahnk you so much, Sandhya. She will be thrilled when I tell her what you said πŸ™‚


  19. haa..ha… loved the letter. If you don’t mind me plagiarizing it, i would love to send it to a few people myself! πŸ˜€

    D: Seeking permission before plagiarizing..I like that style. Chalo, diya permission πŸ˜€


  20. hmmm. too strong letter Deeps… but it shows how much you went thru.. 😦

    D: 😦 :(.. I’ve such understanding friend in you, Kanagu πŸ˜›

    Ignore them…


  21. Hahaha!! Good one Deeps!! πŸ˜› n the pic has an uncanny resemblance too!! lol πŸ˜€ (spare me!!)

    D: Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr 😈


  22. These silly people just are jobless and perverts ! I know we simply need to ignore them but sometimes these get on our nerves…silly idiotic souls that God made by mistake 😐

    Sigh !


  23. What a scary pic! Why don’t you turn off the ‘add me as fraaand’ button because such creatures will never cease to exist. But the good news is Facebook is cracking down on such rogues. I know one whose account was deleted because he sent too many fraaandship requests and that too to the same persons many a times πŸ˜€


  24. will u be my friend ????

    I know hoe it feels …. and i also know how it feels when that ‘stranger’ turns out to be a friend’s friend !! hmmmfffh !!!

    how have u been doing lady ? how is the kiddo ?


  25. Hello Ji me decent Indian girl with lots of culture ji, me got lot of JK also ji (jeneral knowledge ji) and me loving to make friends and keep them ji. Will you share info and make friendship with me Ji. I am very decent and full of good manners and culture and come from a character family Ji. 😈

    D: Oh ji My ji God ji..so many ji’s πŸ™„


  26. When i was on orkut i got so many fraandship requests that i stopped using it. But now facebook is the same too. Seriously, why do people wanna add a total stranger and more over why do they expect that we will accept?

    D:So annoying, isnt it??!


  27. LOL πŸ™‚ .. I too want to be Frandship with you..

    This post does make a lot of sense .. I have seen my friends(girls) getting a lot of scraps like those πŸ™‚ …
    You know one of my friends even got a marriage proposal from an unknown guy .. we were like laughing the whole day after seeing that :)..

    D: Thats even more bizarre! Welcome here, Arvind.


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