A genuinely concerned parent or an over-reacting one?

I really cant decide what am I being here. Whether my concerns are truly genuine or am I just being plain over-reactive.

Parenting does that to you sometimes, doesnt it? In your need to ensure the well-being of your child, parenting brings you to a juncture where you feel challenged into deciding which path to take so that your child feels reassured and best taken care of in the given circumstances.

Now it was only a few months back that I had praised Namnam’s teachers in her kindergarten for being wonderfully caring and sensitive towards her and helping her work on her confident self. And I stand by my opinion. I really do. I am hugely grateful to them for making my daughter’s kindergarten experience one that of immense fun and learning. And on her graduation day while proudly welling up at seeing her stride towards the stage to accept her passing-certificate, I hoped and prayed in my heart of hearts that she would be blessed with the same kind of teachers and environment with ample space to grow in grade 1 as well.

Theres no doubt that I am glad that I chose the particular school for Namnam because the principles on which the school is being run and the various programmes that the school has in place for its pupils convince me thoroughly as a parent that they would benefit my child in the long run.

But unfortunately I have not been getting a very welcoming vibe from Namnam’s Grade 1 teacher. I cant seem to agree very well with her method of approaching her students. Now I know I have no right to judge her for she has the humongous task of handling 20-25 kids at a time in her class. And I respect her and all the teachers for that because I know how difficult it can be to handle so many children with so many different traits and characteristics.

But the fact also remains that one of her students is my child. And when she comes home crying uncontrollably to say that her teacher wrongly taunted her of dreaming because she was not writing what was being asked of her, I am seriously driven to think if its something I should worry about.

What disturbs me is not that she scolded her. No I have no issues whatsoever with her scolding my child. She has every right to, if my child is in the wrong. I send my child to the school, thereby to her knowing fully well that they expect me to place the trust in them and that she will be their responsibility and if she misbehaves or does anything wrong they would have all the authority to correct her, be stern with her, scold her and even reprimand her if needed. But mock her? Taunt her? Now is that really a good method to get the child to adhere to you?

From what I could gather from Namnam, what upset her the most was that her teacher taunted her in a mocking way in front of her classmates. The best way I could think of to pacify her was to tell her to ignore and practice her writing at home. We told her that her teacher had to be given the same importance as her parents and that if she had scolded her for something, she would also commend her when she did something right. It was important that she didn’t begrudge her teacher.

A similar incident occurred with one of Namnam’s classmates, also a friend’s daughter when she was unable to finish jotting down some notes in her book to which the teacher took a swipe at her by calling her a ‘slow-coach’, after which all her friends kept jibing her with the term. She was inconsolable when she got home and recounted the incident to her mother.

Now I understand that taunts, jibes or pokes by friends and peers are a part of growing up, but is it really healthy when a teacher uses such a tactic to tackle her students? Wouldn’t the confidence level of the child take a hit if he/she is snubbed in front of his/her friends? Every child is different but if he/she is treated with the right kind of sensitivity then will it not make him/her secure and confident?

I dont know if talking to the teacher would help for I fear it may put my child in the spotlight which may counter-react. Or if I should just talk to the principal and address my concerns so he can take it up with the teacher without mentioning the particular ward’s name. But what if the principal brings it up with the teacher specifically mentioning my daughter?

Or maybe I am just over-reacting. May be this is just her way of teaching her children to become tough and more accepting towards criticism.

Maybe I should just leave it as a non-issue.

There are so many conflicting worries cropping up in my mind!

Lets hear it for the ‘real’ people in power!

The terrorists! They have the power to keep us all on toes and make us dance to their gory-tunes. They bomb cities, crash into buildings, hijack air-planes all in the name of religion, faith or worse still, freedom!

The news channels are abuzz since morning with the Odisha MLA Jhina Hikaka’s release from the Maoists hold. I have been following this whole drama ever since the Maoists began their terrorizing intimidation by kidnapping Italian tourists and later on the MLA a month back. The Italian hostages were released after the government agreed to release some 27 prisoners of which some are hard-core Maoists. And now the MLA has been released on the condition that he will quit his post and snap all ties with his party.

Which sets me wondering how vulnerable we still are to threats and black-mailing, how challenged we still are when it comes to the security of our nation. These terror-mongers are the ones who are really running the show for us, arent they? They call the shots, they decide who should be in power, who should not. Who should be arrested and who to be released. And if there’s any deviation to their strategies they resort to all possible crimes from extortion, to hijacking our air-planes to abducting ministers,tourists, etc. to murdering innocent people. They may have their reasons for rebellion, but does holding the nation to ransom justify their cause?

And as I type the words there are efforts being made to secure the release of the district collector who has been abducted by the very Maoists. Will the government successfully find ways to rescue him and put an end to the Naxalite hooliganism or will they cow down to the terrorizing pressure yet again?

**Some fleeting thoughts that needed letting out, pardon the vagueness in the post**

The Tag of Elevens x 4

As you must have guessed I am picking up 4 tags passed on to me by 4 of my lovely blogger-friends. Sheer laziness made me put them off, not anymore though. So without much ado let me go straight ahead and answer the questions :).

Usha’s

1. In one word, what have you gained, in life, that you hold most precious?

Namnam

2. In three words, a pet peeve?

Perpetually cribbing cynics

3. A word you think you use a lot, unconsciously :D ?

Goodness gracious!! πŸ˜€

4. What is it that you love to do, most, and would rather spend your time doing it?

Listen to music and sing πŸ™‚

5. What do you think others think of you?

Now thats a toughie! I cant gauge what others think of me, each person can have a different opinion of me. I can only hope noone thinks ill of me though πŸ™‚

6. Who would you say made you who you are today (other than your parents, if that is what you would answer :) )

My teachers, friends, my husband and my daughter

7. What gives you joy?

Watching Namnam grow

Reading to Namnam

Watching her perform.

Watching her come out of her class holding her friends’ hands, giggling and laughing,

Driving around with R beside me

Shopping with him

Experimenting new dishes on R and Namnam and seeing them relish it

Planning a holiday

Spending time with my parents

Getting pampered by them and pampering them too πŸ™‚

Feeling theΒ  first drizzle of rain, breathing in the smell of wet-earth

Smelling cocoa, eating melted chocolates

The red notification alert on FB ever since it introduced the ‘unfollow post’ feature..because now it means I get notified only on those posts which I want to get notified on πŸ˜‰. And recently the orange notification on top of my wordpress page :D. What joy!

Look what you’ve done to me with this one question, Ushus! I seem to be going on and on and on.. πŸ™‚

9. If you could go back to one moment in your past, which moment would it be?

Any one of those Sundays of my childhood when my father and I used to head to a nearby park and fly an airplane. This was much before my brother was born, so I must have been 4 or 5 but the those moments with my Achan are still vivid in my memory and one of the most cherishable ones in my life, so I’d give anything to go back in time and live them again πŸ™‚

10. Do you believe in alternate lifetimes? If so, what is the you there doing now?

Oh no I dont!

11. What makes you you?

My past- each day each moment every little experience I have lived has been instrumental in shaping me, making me the person I am today. Be it the mistakes I have committed or the accomplishments, each one has helped me face a situation in the best way possible. So I am what I am because of them and despite them

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Kanagu’s

1. Name your favorite fictional character and why?

Such a difficult one to answer, Kanagu! There are so many I like. Ok to be fair to the game, let me just mention the two names that came first to my mind..

a) Phantom, the ghost who walks. Why, because IΒ  grew up feasting on the book-series, even remember having a huge crush on both the fearless, masked fighter and Kit Walker, the alter ego who was as much of a family-man doting on his wife and kids – so much so that I had a secret desire to live in the skull-cave just to know how he could switch from Kit Walker to the Ghost who walks with such ease πŸ˜€

b) Florentyna Kane, The Prodigal Daughter. It was the first book I read which focused on showing women as strong and powerful. And I loved Florentyna for her perseverance and strong-will. Much later I got to know that author Jeffrey Archer took inference from Indira Gandhi’s political life to write about Florentyna’s political journey and her eventual ascension to the Presidency. So now I like the character even more πŸ™‚

2. What you like to do more in your free time?

Listen to songs, browsing the internet, chatting with my mother, friends πŸ™‚

3. Please tell us the most funniest prank you are involved in?

I am sorry I cant remember any!

4. What makes you happy?

The same that I mentioned above for one of Usha’s questions πŸ™‚

5. Any regrets in life?

None whatsoever.

6. If you can chose an alter-ego, who or what it will be?

I am happy the way I am πŸ™‚

7. Do you have any interest in politics? If yes, what you feel about UP election results?

I am quite hopeful of Akhilesh Yadav. His youthful zest looks promising. Just hope it doesnt give way to over-confidence.

8. Name the place which you visited last? Whats the special about that place?

I went to the Museum of Islamic Art during the weekend with my family and some friends. I personally am not much into art but surprisingly I enjoyed the tour where we could find a lot of interesting artifacts way back from 12th-13th century.

9. What you like about you most?

That I can adapt to different situations without much of a problem, that I can derive happiness from the simplest of moments and that I can smile even when I have made complete fool of myself πŸ™‚

10. Name 5 things which you feel is most important in life.

Family, Education, Shelter/Home, Financial independence, Entertainment πŸ™‚

11. Name a childhood favorite serial other than animation one.

Hum Log

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Rekha’s

1.) If you could have any superpower, what would it be?

To get my washing machine to also fold my washed and dried clothes and save myself the horror of getting into a room filled with a mountain of clothes to fold 😦

2.) What was your favourite childhood television program?

Hum Log

3.) Have / had any celebrity crushes ?

Oh yes I still do and I am sure some of you know who he possibly is. Still let me field this q to you all…can you guess who he could be?? This way I can ensure if you all are reading the tags still or have dozed off already πŸ˜€

4.) If you could visit anywhere in the world, where would you go?

Paris, Eiffel for myself and Disneyworld for Namnam πŸ™‚

5.) Name 1 thing you miss about being a child.

The long walks around the colony holding my parents’ hands

6.) Name the one comic/book character that you loved the most and why?

I have mentioned about it above as an answer to one of Kanagu’s questions

7.) What is the one thing that you are dying to try but haven’t had a chance to do so yet ?

Scuba diving

8.) Do you have a role model – someone you want to emulate? Whom do you admire the most?

My Ma

9.) What do others make of you?

I dont know. As I mentioned above, people may have different opinions of me.

10.) Have you ever gotten into a fight or punched someone ?

Nah I dont remember punching anyone. Verbal-slings, yes

11.) If you woke up tomorrow to find out you are Brad Pitt, what would be the first thing you’d say upon looking in the mirror???

Oh no!Β 

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Deboshree’s

1. Which is your favourite blog post? Why is that so?

Of my own? This one because I loved writing it, each and every word coming out of me made me feel how blessed and fortunate I was and am as a mother πŸ™‚

2. If you could choose again, which is the profession you would choose for yourself?

I always wanted to be a professional singer

3. Do you believe in ghosts? If yes, briefly tell us about an encounter.

Nope.

4. If it could be anywhere at all, where would you want to win a paid-vacation to? (I am not sponsoring it by the way.)

France and neighboring places-the more the merrier πŸ˜‰

5. How do you ward off an irritating customer care call? Or do you straight away press the End Button?

I simply say ‘I am not interested’ and hang up.

6. Which is the best book you have ever read?

To Kill a Mockingbird and The Palace of Illusions

7. Do you have a dream in the closet? Something you wish you could get back to doing / start doing?

To record a song, the professional way.

8. What scares you the most?

Losing a loved one.

9. In one word, what is your current state of mind?

Bored…after 4 tags back-to-back 😦

10. How do you ward off anxiety? Or, what is the one stressbuster that mostly works for you?

I pour it all out to R and feel lighter or simply play some music πŸ™‚

11. What do you ask people to initiate small talk, say on a long-haul flight or a train ride?

It depends. If the co-passenger has a child accompanying I ask about the child’s age/school, if I see the person fiddling with the seat belt or baggage I offer to help and then eventually the conversation flows. So it varies. Sometimes when I am not in a mood to initiate talks I just keep to myself and Namnam πŸ™‚