Can girls really be friends?

I was reading an article in one of the magazines wherein this question was posed.The article was presented as a debate and two women had contributed with their own differing opinions with a ‘Yes’ and a ‘No’. After reading it,I thought it would be interesting to ask myself the same question.

I went to a co-ed school which means,I’ve been fortunate enough to form some wonderful friendships with both boys and girls over the years. And I cherish all of them. But I’ve always been closer to my girl-friends, because they understand me better.

I believe that there are certain things that you can discuss and experience only with your girlfriends…be it having endless discussions about your crushes. Or be it experiencing a state of Nirvana(well,almost! ) by ogling at handsome hunks, or be it simply heading out for a walk just to feel kicked up about being ogled at !! Or be it sharing the misery of your wretched menstrual cramps and empathizing with each other. Or better still, be it going on a shopping spree, picking the trendiest of clothes,parading in front of the mirrors together and boosting each other’s egos !!

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I doubt if, even discussing these things with boys would be half as fun. Leave aside,experiencing !

I know, gossiping,bitching,back-stabbing,mud-slinging, and the likes are some of the other things attributed to us. Yes,many a time,they can spoil a friendship. But,in defense of the sisterhood, men gossip too,don’t they? They may probably have a different name to it…a heart-to-heart talk ,a frank opinion or whatever. Basically they too have disagreements among each other. And sometimes it can even reach a stage where they wont shirk from taking out their cycle-chains,hockey-sticks or baseball-bats to thrash each other to oblivion.

At least we’re not that harmful . I can proudly say that. All we do is indulge in some harmless gossiping or some verbal-spats,if things get out of hands or at times, if we are really good with words,blog about it and kick it out of our system ;). And the rest of us,who are not so good at it,just ignore. Thats it.

That will certainly not mean I’ll stop making friends with girls. I will because I know we are fun to be with despite our hiccups.

So,if I ask myself ‘Can girls really be friends?’. My answer is ‘yes,of course’.

Ok,now before our men from Mars come out in unison to thrash me,let me just go back to the safe cocoon of my planet Venus ๐Ÿ˜€

The Life and Times of a Blogomaniac

EDITED TO ADD : Thank You,Blogadda, for the Tangy Pick !

Caution: This is a work of fiction. Yet, resemblance of characters and certain incidents to anyone real or virtual is purely intentional !

Also its a long story which couldn’t be cut short !


It is a bright sunny morning.

Time 8AM

Deeps,after sending off husband,R & daughter,Namnam,gets set to indulge in her daily dose of entertainment. Its time to pay visits to her friends in the blogville. She cant wait to know whats happening in their lives !!

She realizes she has to be back soon to get on with her chores at home. She plans to cook shahi paneer and fried rice ,a favorite of both R & Namnam, for lunch ! She is confident she will be back by 930 at the most. C’mon how long should it take to drop in a word!

She starts off with a visit to Nancy,who lives close-by

Knock Knock! Knock Knock!

No response.

Deeps: Helloooo,are you there,Nance?

Deeps knocks again and just as she thinks Nance is away and begins to retract her steps, the door is opened by a half-asleep Nancy

Deeps: Oh,so sorry Nance,didnt know you would be sleeping. Are you ok?

Nancy: Oh yes yes,I’m fine,thank you,Deeps. Its just that I came across an article on sleep deprivation recently and was so shell-shocked to know about the detrimental impacts it could have on one’s life that I didnt want to take any chances. Thought I would catch up on some lost sleep of my own,just to be on the safer side!

Deeps: I understand,Nance. You sleep tight and have sweet dreams. Will come by later ๐Ÿ™‚ .


Deeps,now, hops by Rakesh’s zone

Rakesh: Hi Deeps !

Deeps:Hi there, whats up? You seem to be pissed off with the advertising industry for way too long!

Rakesh: Yes! This uninhibited capitalism is getting to me!

There sure needs to be a change in topic before the air gets more serious.

Deeps: Heard Kurbaan is released.

Rakesh: Yes and am looking forward to watching it.

Deeps: Wonderful! will look forward to your take on it.
C u later,Rakesh ๐Ÿ™‚


As she wonders where to stop by next, Deeps hears some giggling and chirruping amidst a lot of tap,tap from Swaramโ€™s end and decides to drop by.

Swaram: Hey,Deeps,come on in!

Deeps: What’s all the noise,Swar and how come youโ€™re not at work?

Swaram: Oh I had a large carton of โ€˜bubble wraps lying here,so we thought of taking a day off from work to pop pop pop away to glory! Tee hee!

Deeps: We? Is Su in too?

Right then two hands wrap Deeps from behind.

Crafty: *Super tight hugs*, Deeeeeeeps! So good to see you here ๐Ÿ™‚ ๐Ÿ™‚ ๐Ÿ™‚

Deeps: Hi Craftysweets,so good to see you too? So who else is here?

Pixie: I’m here too..hee hee

Deeps: So the “Gang of Girls” is here! Fantastic!
Carry on,girls,have fun. See you later ๐Ÿ™‚


Deeps heads to Vimmuuu’s house next.

Vimmuu: $#@%^&*#$#%$…Oh sorry, Deeps,didnt see you coming. Welcome!

Deeps: Whts the matter,Vims? Why r u so hassled?’

Vimmu: Iโ€™m raging mad at the Water Board. ๐Ÿ˜ก ๐Ÿ˜ก ๐Ÿ˜ก .You know,they have stopped water supply of my house. Apparently they think I wash clothes and take bath way too much and that leaves other residents in the locality with hardly enough water for their own use.

Deeps: Oh! Thats a shame! Dont they know those are your favorite indulgences??

Vimmu: Iโ€™m seriously going to give them some lessons on cleanliness and hygiene,I tell you!

Deeps: ๐Ÿ™„ ๐Ÿ™„ Good luck,Vims.Hope they see sense. Bye!


And then she heads off to Hitchywriter’s abode.

Hitchy greets her with a very morose ‘Hi’ .

Deeps: Why the sullen look,Hitchy?

Hitchy: Look how poor Sachin is being dragged into the political brouhaha!! Cant the fanatics just leave him alone and let him enjoy his moment of glory? They owe him at least that much.

Deeps: Yes its very disheartening! Iโ€™m sure Sachin is sensible enough to not let such ridiculousness get to him though.

Hitchy: Yes of course! But still its depressing. And as you know the more I feel depressed the hungrier I get.

Saying this he gets up to head to the kitchen.

Hitchy: Iโ€™m going to have some โ€˜Akuriโ€™. Care to join?

Deeps: No thank you,Hitchy.Iโ€™ll get going too. You enjoy your sulk Akuri ๐Ÿ˜› Bye!


Deeps reaches IHMโ€™s house and rings the doorbell.

IHM: Welcome,Deeps. Please come in.

Deeps: Thank you,IHM. I cant wait to do some serious male-bashing.So,who are we targeting today?

IHM: Not today,Deeps. Iโ€™ve received a letter from some harassed husbands who are protesting against their nagging bickering wives and they are looking for as many voices as possible in support of them. Iโ€™ve decided to stand by them. Men deserve to be heard too,you know.

Deeps, a bit panicked at this revelation asks,”,is there a certain Mr R in the list of petitioners,by any chance??’

IHM checks the list and responds in the negative.

‘Phew’ ! Deeps heaves a sigh of relief.

Deeps: Youโ€™re doing the right thing,IHM. Iโ€™ll support them too wholeheartedly !!

IHM: Thank you.


Deeps,next heads to Soliloโ€™s house.

Solilo: Bienvenue!

Deeps: Hainji???

Solilo: Oops!sorry,I forgot you didnโ€™t know French!

Deeps: Thank you.

Solilo: So,did you read my revue des livres of “The Horse Boy”?

Deeps: your what? ๐Ÿ˜• ๐Ÿ˜•

Solilo: There I go again! I mean my book review?

Deeps:Yes,Sols,and I loved your take on it. In fact I had shared my thoughts on it too.

Solilo: You had? Then how come I donโ€™t remember it?

Deeps: You would if you stop letting my comments go into your trash can ๐Ÿ˜ฆ ๐Ÿ˜ฆ

Solilo: ๐Ÿ˜› ๐Ÿ˜› ๐Ÿ˜›

Just then something catches Deepsโ€™ eyes right across the street.

Deeps: Sols,has Sakshi shifted from her house?

Solilo: I donโ€™t think so. I know she was planning to though. Why what happened?

Deeps: I just saw an unknown figure coming out of the house.

Solilo: Really? Where? Where? Let me see.

Sols joins Deeps to peep through the window.

Solilo: Oh,thatโ€™s definitely Sakshi,Deeps? Look at that Olive green nylon hat with rabbit fur she is donning!

Deeps: oh yes,that is her, indeed. But whats with that style statement? ๐Ÿ˜ฏ ๐Ÿ˜ฏ

Solilo: Ah! The inimitable Sakshi! Only she can wear an orange lungi and red shirt and carry herself off with such elan!
Come lets ask the Diva herself where she is off to.

Deeps and Sols rush outside.

Deeps:Hi Saksh,where are u off to?

Sakshi zooms off without a word.

๐Ÿ™„ ๐Ÿ™„ ๐Ÿ™„

Solilo calls out from the back,โ€™Hey partner, where are you going without replying to us?

Sakshi is out of sight by now.

Deeps: Never mind,she must be in a major hurry to โ€˜come firstโ€™ somewhere. Lets not take it away from her.
Ok,Sols Iโ€™m off now. Catch up with you later.

Solilo: Bye Deeps ๐Ÿ™‚


Deeps stops over at Smithaโ€™s now.

Smitha: Hi Deeps you couldnโ€™t have come at a more apt time. Iโ€™ve made some muffins!

Deeps: Wow,Smits! Cant wait to gobble them. BTW why are you wearing an XXL-sized shirt buttoned up all the way till your neck??

Smitha: Oh Iโ€™m on strict orders to wear a bigger shirt lest my midriff shows up!

Deeps: Orders from who?

Smitha: Who else but Poohi !!

Deeps rolls off her chair in a fit of laughter. โ€™Girls I tell you! Is it any surprising that we see glimpses of our grandmothers in our daughters at times??!!โ€™

Amidst all the muffin-munching and endless chatting,Deeps loses track of time.

And then suddenly……

Deeps: Gosh! Look at the time! Its 12! Have I been away for so long?? And I have about 50 more houses that I had planned to visit today! Guess that will have to wait till tomorrow ๐Ÿ˜ฆ

Have to rush,Smits. Bye,see you later.

Smitha: Bye! Hop back safely,Deeps.


Deeps scurries back home to realize that she is already running late to go and fetch Namnam from school. Not only that. She has to put washed clothes out to dry. On top of that,she finds out that the electric oven is on !! She cant even remember when she had used it last!

Anyway, she decides with a heavy heart that Shahi Paneer and Fried Rice will have to be substituted with a simpler and non-exciting Dal and Rice today.

And then she composes herself and sets off to fetch Namnam and bring her life back in order….

Moral of the story : Excessive blog-hopping can take a harmful toll on your day-to-day life.It can even disturb your mental equilibrium.


**The title is inspired by the blog title of a very popular blogger Indian Homemaker

**To know the definition of a Blogomaniac please refer to this page in Solilo’s blog

EDITED TO ADD: I’m sorry,people I’ve not been blog-hopping lately and I’m yet to respond to many of your comments in my previous post. Have been caught up with some domestic obligations. Will hop by and visit you all soon. ๐Ÿ™‚

And the budday wishes aren’t over yet…

Here’s another one!

Today is about someone who I ‘met’ a couple of months ago as a neighbour from the blog-ville.In fact,its been almost a year.She introduced herself to me as a fellow delhi-ite who was as much in love with the city as I was.Her forte was her way with words,her sense of humour.And when I went to her abode for a return visit,I knew instantly it was a space I was going to love hanging out in and she was one person I was going to be mighty glad being friends with.

She is all about laughter,happiness,positivity and more.Her space not only boasts of all seasons of love,but its also about having fun to the hilt.We can sing,play,skip,laugh,crack jokes.We can even make fun of her and she will give it right back at us with her witty one liners!Its a virtual playground for all of those visiting her.She is someone who can make a mundane task of preparing a bread-butter-jam sandwich look as though there’s nothing more fun or greater an indulgence as this.

By now you would have guessed who I’m talking about.Yes its Sakshi,Saksh,as I lovingly call her.She is one of my favourite bloggers,someone who I eagerly look forward to reading.She is one of the coolest,most easy-going people I’ve come across ever since I started blogging.

Its her birthday today and I’d like her to know how fortunate I’m to have known her. And how glad I’m to have found a friend in her.

Happy Birthday,Saksh.May you have all the happiness in the world.Here comes a special wish for you from Smits & me.Enjoy and have a great day ahead ๐Ÿ™‚

**greeting created by Smitha**

Thank You,dear blogger friends!

Thank you from the bottom of my heart for the b’day wishes!I know I could have responded in the comments-section of my previous post.But since some of you had wished me outside of the blogosphere too,I’m using this space to thank each one of you.

VJ,you were the first one from the blog-world to wish me,hence very special.Thank you,sweetie ๐Ÿ™‚

Smitha,your mail did come as a pleasant surprise.Thank you,dear for your wishes.They meant the world to me ๐Ÿ™‚

Solilo,you wished me through a mail and then you wished me again with a greeting which was as beautiful as the person in you.What more do I ask for?Thank you so very much ๐Ÿ™‚

Hitchy,my adopted son,thank you ever so much for your wishes ๐Ÿ™‚

Swaram,your call made my day.Thank you,dear for the loving wishes ๐Ÿ™‚

Saritha,thank you,dearie ๐Ÿ™‚

Elegant chic,thank you,sweets ๐Ÿ™‚

Pixie,thank you,sweetheart ๐Ÿ™‚

Rakesh,its the gesture that counts,not the time-frame!Thank you for being so thoughtful ๐Ÿ™‚

Sunder,thank you ๐Ÿ™‚

Crafty Shines,thanks heaps for the b’day cup cake!Like I said earlier,its not the time that counts.Its the gesture,the thought,craftysweets ๐Ÿ™‚

Dear all,your wishes made my day even more special and worthwhile :). Thank you all once again(now stop counting the number of ‘Thank yous’ I’ve said here!!)

Have a great day/weekend! ๐Ÿ™‚