Day 17- If only I could’t care less…

I would be so much more at peace.

Sometimes I feel I could learn much from R. With no hang-ups over what others may think of him. Those who know him well, would know what I mean. He is in no rush to please people. He blurts out his opinions bluntly. It’s not that he says things without thinking. Oh he knows well what he says. What he says is what he truly thinks, feels and believes. All the time. He does and says what he wants to, whether people like it or not  is secondary. If they approve well and good. If they don’t he couldn’t care less. There are no multiple tracks running in his mind at the same time.

Unlike me.

I think and think again and then again. Then I feel I should say it. Then I hold back thinking people may dislike me for saying it so bluntly. And end up saying something entirely different, just to please them. Just because that is what they want to hear. And what I truly feel gets suppressed within me which more often than not clashes with my inner peace big time!

I had written once before long back how I would get bothered by someone’s behavior, yet I wouldn’t express it openly for I hate confrontations. But sometimes I get bothered by my own behaviour even more.  No not by my inability to say no. That is a trait I am learning to correct. And I’m getting there, albeit slowly but surely. It’s my inability to stand up for the people I love and care about purely because of this inane habit to be in others’ good books that irks me the most.

Sounds ironic, right? In my compelling desire to be miss goody goody with everyone, I let my own people down.  I should focus on being there for them, the people who matter in my life and standing up for them when anyone pounces on them, right? But I end up staying mum instead because I fear displeasing others. How horrible does that make me sound!

Now my big worry is what if Namnam imbibes the quality from me. So far she has been managing well. She seems to be going the R way, with her heart and head firmly in place :D. I hope she is never governed by the inane urge to please everyone. Rather gives more importance to keeping her own conscience clear and being pleased with herself than anything else. Fingers crossed.

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Coming to America- Washington, D.C

**** Long long long post! Please bear with me ***

Sometimes I wish I could give real time updates while travelling. So many thoughts stream through my mind while I am on the go, but which never see the light of day when I get down to jotting them down in here days later. I’m in awe of those travel bloggers who can share their experiences so engagingly through their pictures and words with their frequent updates while they travel. I must learn from them how to balance enjoying a moment and sharing the experience as well all at the same time 🙂

Anyway,now that I am back from my holiday and it’s too late for real time updates, let me do the next best thing. Something that I enjoy doing just as much…

open my picture-folder, browse through the album that has moments of our holiday captured, take my mind back to those 13 days and relive and recount them here. For keepsake.

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This is one trip which I have spent a lot of time planning and organizing for ever since it started to take shape. And those who know me well know how much I love doing that. The kick it gives me! It’s not because I have too much time on hand or I’m “jobless”. It’s simply because I find spending my time on it every bit worthwhile.
On that note let me take you to the first city that welcomed us on the American land. The capital city, Washington, D.C.

Oops! Let me correct myself. Washington, as I learned only recently is neither a city nor a state. Its a federal district, bordered by two states Maryland and Virginia. It’s commonly known as Washington, the District or simply D.C which stands for District of Columbia. It was founded in 1791 as the national capital of United States.

Now even though our flight was 13 hour long, we didn’t feel the strain of a jet lag as we got out of the airport. Maybe it was because we had a good few hours of sleep in the flight or maybe it was pure excitement of a holiday!

A bit of a setback, however, was that when we reached our hotel we were told that our room wouldn’t be ready for another 3 hours!  We could have at least left our luggage and freshened up before kick-starting our vacation. But that was not to be. The usual check-in time in hotels there was 4 pm! Too late isnt it? So we decided to keep our luggage in the storage room and venture out to grab something to eat and get wandering.

Probably  the American weather thought that since we were coming from an extremely hot region, we would feel more at home if were welcomed with the same kind of weather. Else why it would greet us with the hottest temperature on the very day we land is beyond me 😯 ! Anyway, consoling ourselves that it was still not as bad as the Gulf weather, we surged forward.

After a light lunch, we made a quick hop over to this place which had been on top of my must-see list ever since I started planning for this trip! The Smithsonian Institution Building. This beauty had me just stand there and gape at it speechless for sometime right at the gate.

The Castle, as it's aptly nicknamed, is a visitor information center for the Smithsonian Institution. It was built in stages from 1849 to 1855 and classified as a National Historic Landmark in 1965. Image courtesy: Namnam :)
The Castle, as it’s aptly nicknamed, is a visitor information center for the Smithsonian Institution. It was built in stages from 1849 to 1855 and classified as a National Historic Landmark in 1965. Image courtesy: Namnam 🙂

As we strolled around the Castle wondering where to go next, we got a call from the hotel informing us of our room being ready. We headed back to unwind ourselves and postpone the exploring for a bit later in the evening.

And how did we unwind? We had two interesting options- either Keep up with the Kardashians or *Hillary*-iously catch up with *Trump*ing elections. We chose to amuse ourselves with both alternatively! 😉

Once we were fairly amused, we set out to take a stroll on the ellipse and see the most popular address in the world… and take some pictures in front of it!

Yup! The White House
Yup! The White House

Then we proceeded to the National Mall, a national park that protects all the iconic monuments and memorials that tell heartbreaking yet inspiring stories of toil and grit that went in making this nation. It was at this point as we were strolling towards it that I fell in love with D.C. for the sheer way it took pride in safeguarding the nation’s enriching history.

When the mounting Washington Monument emerged in view as we walked on, to say that we were overwhelmed would be an understatement…

The Washington Monument made of marble standing at 555 feet is world's tallest stone structure and tallest obelisk. As the name suggests, the monument was built to honour the founding father and 1st president of United States, George Washington
The Washington Monument made of marble standing at 555feet is world’s tallest stone structure and tallest obelisk. As the name suggests, the monument was built to honour the founding father and 1st president of United Stated, George Washington

And while we were there our girl saw a huge spread of grass and wished to take a break from walking to stretch a bit….backwards!

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After that little break, it was time to visit another memorial. Here though, I have to mention that at the time of planning for this holiday I had asked Namnam to do a little research of her own and make a list of places that she wished to see. And she made a note of this particular memorial that we walked to next and the one after that…

The World War 2 Memorial- an awe-inspiring symbol of service, sacrifice, unity and victory.

This memorial has been built to pay tribute to all those Americans who served and sacrificed their lives for their nation during the war, and recognize the victory they brought about.
This memorial has been built to pay tribute to all those Americans who served and sacrificed their lives for their nation during the war, and recognize the victory they brought about.
There are 56 granite pillars like these with bronze panels surrounding the memorial with two archways on either side.
There are 56 granite pillars like these with bronze panels surrounding the memorial with two archways on either side.
Each pillar bears the name of a U.S State and territory that represented the country at the time of the war.
Each pillar bears the name of a U.S State and territory that represented the country at the time of the war.
A beautiful plaza and a fountain adorn the space buzzing with people, with an ever so inviting Lincoln Memorial watching over from a distance.
A beautiful plaza and a fountain adorn this space buzzing with people, with an ever so inviting Lincoln Memorial watching over from a distance.

As the day was about to call it a night, we walked over to our last stop for the day…

The magnificent Lincoln Memorial by the Reflecting Pool
The magnificent Lincoln Memorial by the Reflecting Pool

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Inside this building sat the most majestic statue I had ever seen in my life!

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With this image tucked safely in our hearts, we wrapped up our first day like a dream.

Our second day here took us to that part of the district which held the crux of this nation’s judiciary and polity.

The Supreme Court, another architectural marvel

Being a Saturday the Court was closed for visitors. But we could liberally click pictures and yes selfies too from the outside!
Being a Saturday the Court was closed for visitors. But we could liberally click pictures and yes selfies too from the outside!

And the US Capitol, the official seat of the nation’s legislature

 It was built in 1800 sans the dome at first. Subsequently the dome was added as a part of its expansion. Unfortunately I couldn't get a better shot of the building from the outside because of a scaffolding that was erected around the dome for restoration.
It was built in 1800 sans the dome at first. Subsequently the dome was added as a part of its expansion. Unfortunately I couldn’t get a better shot of the building from the outside because of a scaffolding that was erected around the dome for restoration.

We took a brief tour of the monument which started off with an enriching orientation about how the nation came together despite the strife and struggle of many states to form one government. We were then taken to the Rotunda, the tallest section of the Capitol, that housed an impressive collection of historical paintings, some even bearing considerable significance to the American Revolution. We were one of the lucky few to have been allowed access to the hall that day as it was the last day of public access to this part of the Capitol before the Rotunda was to be closed for restoration till next year.

Although the insides were a bit of an eye-sour what with all the scaffolding blocking the paintings and sculptures, I couldn't help feeling elated to have got a chance to see all those creations and hear so many amazing stories of independence and interpretations of them. We couldn't have got luckier!
Although the insides were a bit of an eye-sour what with all the scaffolding blocking the paintings and sculptures, I couldn’t help feeling elated to have got a chance to see all those creations and hear so many amazing stories and interpretations of them. We couldn’t have got luckier!

However, there were some of us who got utterly bored by the lecture of the tour-guide and endless walking at times. So this is how we kept ourselves engaged..

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Moving on, we headed to The Statuary National Hall, a chamber dedicated to sculptures of prominent Americans. This gallery took shape when each state of this country was invited to contribute two statues of prominent citizens. One could find sculptures of people from different walks of life, not necessarily politicians or leaders.

This ceiling, originally wooden was replaced by a double-sunk coffered ceiling to contain the echoes emanating from the chamber
This ceiling, originally wooden was replaced by a double-sunk coffered ceiling to contain the echoes emanating from the chamber

After that immensely enlightening tour it was time to head to our next halt, The Library of Congress.

The library is the second largest in the world, with the largest being the British Library.
The library is the second largest in the world, with the largest being the British Library.

Namnam, who couldn’t stop jumping around at the prospect of going inside the reading room because of some 160 million books believed to be residing there, was literally in tears when she got to know that she had to be 16years or above to be allowed access to the room!

Seeing her sullen face, R suggested she leave a note to the Library telling them of her disappointment. So there she is doing just that, urging them to do away with the age restriction and let young readers like her have access to the treasure trove too just as well :D
Seeing her sullen face, R suggested she leave a note to the Library telling them of her disappointment. So there she is doing just that, urging them to do away with the age restriction and let young readers like her have access to the treasure trove too just as well 😀

From here we went on to check out the National Air and Space Museum, which boasts of the largest collection of aircraft and spacecraft in the world. It looked so unassuming from the outside but turned out to be a revelation when we stepped inside. We came out of the museum with R’s jaws dropped and Namnam’s eyes bulging out of wonderment. The NASM is one of the most popular of the 19 museums that make up the Smithsonian Institution.

What fascinated me about the Smithsonian Institution was this little trivia about how it came to be named after James Smithson an English scientist who left $508,318 in his will in 1829, to the people of United States to create an establishment for the increase and diffusion of knowledge. Isn’t that a wonderful vision of a gift to give to the people of a country!

And guess what’s more awesome. There’s no entrance fee to get inside these museums. You can stroll in and around absolutely free!! How incredible is that!

The only place where we paid to get entry to was inside the Air & Space Museum to get a flight simulator experience which as per Namnam was amazing!

Our next halt was the International Spy Museum, not a part of Smithsonian Institution. The entry tickets were a bit too steep to my liking though. It was fun nonetheless to get around it like a spy with fake names and missions to carry out!

We closed in on our second day with a visit to Madame Tussaud’s where we got to say hello to a lot of celebrities some of whom looked much frailer than their real self and some, much healthier and some, like our stammer k..k..k..king of Bollywood and our desi “Bradley Cooper” looked just meh! Namnam was mighty pleased with the place when she got to pose with Selena Gomez and Taylor Swift among a few others, even though she went looking for Justin Beiber!

While my day was wax-made when I got to meet my eternal crush over a tiny cup of tea and…and…and..hold hands too!!

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Oh and yes, since it was the election season, this place too had a poll running inside the museum for their visitors and it was neither Hillary or Trump who was tipped to run the country…but Beyonce Knowles!!

And just like that our stay in Washington was about to end.

The first half of the day was spent in a very forgettable neighborhood town of Georgetown. I say forgettable because there wasn’t much to do there. We could have taken a cruise along the Potomac River which flows right alongside this town, but opted against it since we had covered most of the monuments we had intended to and the cruise wouldn’t have offered anything new anyway.

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I included a visit to this part of the town in our itinerary because of all the good reviews it had garnered on Tripadvisor and other travel websites. So I thought it would give us an idea about how locals live there. While it did give us a little peek into how the locals laze around on a weekend there, when we had breakfast in one of the much recommended restaurants Baked&Wired, it didn’t quite enthrall us the way we had hoped to. On top of that, a fuming 100 degrees Fahrenheit temperature didn’t help us one bit!

But we still found a way to cool ourselves down, rather Namnam did…

Wish such fountains would find a spot for public in hot cities like Dubai too!
Wish such fountains would find a spot for public in hot cities like Dubai too!

While the first half was nondescript, the second half more than made up for it. We visited the massive National Museum of Natural History where we were greeted by Henry the elephant…

This is the largest mounted specimen of an elephant.
This is the largest mounted specimen of an elephant.

This museum, where again the admission is free, is the most visited natural history museum and we could get a fair idea as to why it was so with an amazing amount of exhibits of all kinds of natural creatures and specimens that were on display here. I was astonished to see the Gems Hall filled with diamonds and stones owned and worn by many Indian royals from bygone eras.

There was a Butterfly Pavilion that one could access at an entry price of $6. It was a beautiful little enclosure with variety of butterflies dancing around us, even latching on to us at times! Namnam got a chance to hold a butterfly and bring home some beautiful memories too..

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As we exited the building, I realized even more so that we could have easily given a miss to Georgetown and utilized the time to explore this museum to our heart’s content. Better luck next time I guess. Oh yes, there IS going to be a next time. Don’t ask when though!

The day and eventually our stay in D.C was almost coming to a close. But not before I had a chance to meet a dear dear friend from school. Nims and her husband were super sweet to have come all the way from Virginia to meet us. It was a wonderful evening spent over drinks, yummy food and loads and loads of yapping that my friend and I both couldn’t/wouldn’t put a stop to ;).

A fitting end to the first leg of our holiday 🙂

Rambling #9- remembering important dates and feeling special

Some of my friends have been exchanging each other’s birthdays back and forth on our What’s App group. One of them, my best friend, even remembered birthdays of practically everyone in the group! She was always good with dates, though, even back in school. She was the one who would have the most apt greeting card, ready much in advance. Not just that. She didn’t believe in presenting it with a simple “Dear D, Happy B’day, with love, H”. Even if the greeting card had the best quotes and messages printed in. She always presented it with her own hand-written messages, with every little space utilized to the fullest! Oh we used to love getting greeting cards from her, because she had a way with words. She had this beautiful knack of making a person feel extra special. I was heavily influenced by this quality of hers. So much so that even I began giving out greeting cards with some extra scribbles of my own. In fact a lot of us got influenced and soon it became a trend of sorts.

A couple of days ago I came across my autograph book in my bookshelf, while looking for something to read. I flipped through the pages and realized that most of them were filled page by page, line by line, with not an inch to spare, scribbled with sweet nothings by my friends and classmates.  And I realized how naive and gullible we all were back then.

Anyway I digress..again. But then digressing is an integral part of rambling, isn’t it? 😛

So to come back to what I started out wanting to tell, I was so impressed by my friend’s ability to remember birthdays that I too started making notes of them. It turned into a fun activity to remember birthdays and then pick up the right greeting cards and scribble our feelings in them. Oh the excitement to run to the nearest Archie Book Store, whenever the occasion demanded, to plan up ahead with the right kind of card to give with the right kind of messages to written in!

Keeping track of birthdays exposed me to sun signs and yes, Linda Goodman too! Her book was one that I could read any number of times! She was so convincing with her observations that I even started judging people by the sun signs they were born under. I even had my concerns when I learnt that I was marrying an Aquarian, who according to her reading wasn’t meant to be compatible with me. Yup, I was that quirky! But after having 15 years of living together has taught me that some readings are better left uncomprehended.

Speaking of remembering important dates…

Dear Husband, Happy Anniversary to you! Thank you for hearing me sing to you the same song for 15 years. But then I’ve been listening to you crack the same jokes and laughing at them too, havent I?. So you’d better 😛

 

 

The grateful post

I have been observing a lot of my friends taking up this interesting tag on Facebook lately where they are listing down 3 things that they are grateful for.

I have not been tagged by anyone yet, and I am not regular on Facebook either. But I am quite tempted to take it up all the same. So here I am, listing down what I am thankful for, right here on my blog.

– I’m grateful for my daughter who has this knack of adapting to any change or situation with the wonderful ease that’s worth imbibing. As some of you know, we have recently moved countries. And it is not easy getting used to a new place, that you are learning to call home, as is the case with any shift. But Namnam teaches me and my husband with her resilience and her willingness to adjust to her new life with a smile on her face, that it’s not so difficult either.

– Every visit to a temple, every little conversation I have with God makes me positive, makes me grateful for the life I have been blessed with, for the people I have been blessed with in my life.

– I’m grateful for my husband who brings in an amazing sense of calm in me every time I make use of his alternate role as my vent-board! 😉

So, what are you grateful for today or everyday?